Grieving someone who’s still here?
What to say when someone tells you “at least she’s still here”
A free 3-page sample of Navigating Ambiguous Loss: A Guided Journal for the Long Goodbye, from a former long-term care nurse.
What’s inside your 3 pages
Print it, or read it on screen and write in a notebook.
A letter from me
Why I wrote this journal, and why your grief counts even though nobody has died.
Replies to hurtful comments
“At least she’s still here.” “You must be so strong.” Five comments caregivers hear, why they sting, and what you can say back.
A page of journal prompts
Questions that help you put into words what you haven’t said out loud.
What you hear
“At least she’s still here.”
A reply you can borrow
“I’m so glad she’s here, and I’m also grieving what’s already gone. Both are true.”
One of five replies in your free sample.
This is for you if
- Someone you love has dementia, and you’re grieving while they’re still here
- You’ve been told to “stay positive” and it didn’t help
- You feel guilty for being tired, angry or sad
- You want a private place to put all of it
Hi, I’m Sue
I’m a former long-term care nurse. I spent years on a special care unit, and I watched families carry their grief quietly because they believed everyone else already had enough to do.
I created Speaking With Care to give families words for the hard moments. This journal is for the grief that comes with them.
xo Sue | Speaking With Care
This journal is for reflection. It isn’t therapy or medical advice.
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Three pages you can print or read on screen, sent to your inbox right away.
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