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The Gentle Art of Dementia Response
I watched an Instagram reel yesterday about a person with dementia who was sundowning. In case you are new here, or to the world of dementia care, sundowning is a name for symptoms such as heightened confusion, anxiety, and agitation that often occurs late in the afternoon or early evening. Their inner sense of safety…
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Sundowning Restlessness: Calming Movement Activities for Dementia
In the journey of dementia care, there comes a specific time of day that many family caregivers dread. As the sun begins to set, a wave of anxiety, confusion, and physical agitation can settle over your loved one. We often talk about how our words matter during these intense evening hours. We know that skipping…
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Sundowning Aggression: Why Comfort Can Feel Like a Threat
The Evening Snap: Why Kind Questions Backfire It’s 5:00 PM. You just walked through the front door, balancing grocery bags and the lingering stress of the workday. You’ve been caring for your mom, whose mild dementia has felt noticeably heavier over the last few weeks. During the day, she manages well enough on her own.…
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Dementia and Lying: Why Your Parent Denies Needing Help
A caregiver recently posted about a familiar and painful situation: her mother, who has dementia, had been talking to her sibling behind her back, complaining that her care was “awful,” building a case against the very person doing the work. The advice that showed up in the comments was well-meaning and completely understandable: “Take her…
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How to Respond to Dementia Behaviors Without Correcting
Why We Feel Stuck: The Biology of the Battle How many times today have you tried to explain the truth to a person living with dementia, only to end up more frustrated, more exhausted, and further from a connection? If you feel like you’re constantly running on a broken engine, it’s not because you aren’t…
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Dementia Bathing Resistance: Words to Avoid
Why “Bath” and “Shower” Trigger Resistance (and What to Say Instead) If you care for someone with dementia, you’ve probably had this moment. You say, “It’s time for your shower,” and they cross their arms, shake their head, or suddenly become a different person. Sometimes the resistance is quiet. Sometimes it’s loud and fast. It’s…